An Exercise in Getting to Know Myself

I was on Gretchen Rubin’s blog and found that a while ago she posted a list of questions to get to know yourself better. I thought just for fun I’d ask myself these questions, share teh answers with you, and see if I feel any more aware of who I am. Plus I am so off the blogging game that I have very little inspiration as far as where I should be going in my happiness project.

If something is forbidden, do you want it less or more?
This would depend on the context. If something is forbidden because it poses dangers to myself or others then I really don’t want it. For example drugs are forbidden but they’re dangerous and don’t really hold any appeal to me. On the other hand, if you tell me that I can’t touch an birthday present until 5 o’clock and leave it out in the open all day I’ll be dying to open it.

Is there an area of your life where you feel out of control? Especially in control?
I feel like I’m not in particularly good control of my habits. I can’t seem to act consistently at healthy eating, exercise, wake-up times, etc.
As far as things I am in control of, nothing really jumps out.

If you unexpectedly had a completely free afternoon, what would you do with that time?
Probably come home and read a book, watch TV, or go to Target.

Are you comfortable or uncomfortable in a disorderly environment?
Very uncomfortable.

How much time do you spend looking for things you can’t find?
Not very much time at all.

Are you motivated by competition?
I almost said yes. But the truth is I am mostly motivated by a fear of failing to meet expectations.

Do you find it easier to do things for other people than to do things for yourself?
It depends on what it is. Probably other people though. Unless it comes to frivilous spending. I have a hard time spending money on other people. I am a bit stingy.

Do you work constantly? or think you should be working?
I have focus issues so no I don’t work constantly. I am constantly multitasking.

Do you embrace rules or flout rules?
Embrace them.

Do you work well under pressure?
To a certain extent, yes.

What would your perfect day look like?
Sleeping in, a yummy breakfast, a quiet morning reading, an afternoon spent binge watching TV, a sunny evening to take the dogs on a walk. Candles lit, 65 degrees, and a light breeze.

How much TV do you watch in a week (include computer time spent watching videos, movies, YouTube)?
15 hours maybe.

Are you a morning person or a night person?
I am definitely more of a morning person, but only once I’ve gotten out of bed.

Do you like to be in the spotlight?
Not really. I like to be remembered but I don’t like to be the center of attention.

Is your life “on hold” in any aspect? Until you finish your thesis, get married, lose weight?
In some ways yes. I keep telling myself when my life is back in order I’ll get back into exercise. When my life is more in order I’ll catch up on my daily bible readings. I need to change this. Or at least I want to.

What would you do if you had more energy?
Exercise, clean, take up hobbies.

If you suddenly had an extra room in your house, what would you do with it?
Make it into a gym so that I’d have no excuse for not going. I already have a reading room 🙂

What people and activities energize you? Make you feel depleted?

Energize- Getting things done. Being able to check things off my list. Accomplishing what I set out to do.
Deplete- Too much forced socialization. I genuinely am an introvert and hanging out with people often, and for extended periods of time makes me cranky.

Is it hard for you to get rid of things that you no longer need or want?
In general, no.

Do you get frustrated easily?
Yes, I do.

On a typical night, what time do you go to bed? How many hours of sleep do you get?
Go to bed between 9 and 10:30 and get anywhere from 7-9 hours of sleep.

If at the end of the year, you had accomplished one thing, what is the one accomplishment that would make the biggest difference to your happiness?
I think I’d like to have a consistent routine and more energy. I’d like to consistently exercise, consistently clean my house on a certain day, and just feel more energized all the time.

Week One Update

Well guys, it’s January 11th. I’ve been working on this project about a week and a half now and I feel invigorated- but still a bit lost. I thought I’d let you know how some of my plans have been going.

The Resolution Chart

The resolution chart is helpful, but limited. I will probably try and use one each month but I have found that I do better at things on it that are tangible. Let’s start with the first resolution, the sixty second rule. For 5/7 days I have met this goal. I’ve realized that the days I am not doing this I am tired. For example yesterday the hubby and I spent literally 7 hours cleaning things out and throwing things away upstairs. I didn’t wash my coffee mug out or clean out my smoothie jar. So something I need to work on is making sure I am feeling rested.

The second resolution was to Obey the alarm. I have actually done this all but one day. I am beyond surprised. And I have to say getting up when my alarm goes off, so that I can enjoy my mornings really has made my weeks run a whole lot smoother. Plus I am getting in 20 minutes of reading before work- which I love because often after work I feel too drained from the day to read.

“Exercise consistently” was another of my resolutions. I have met this 3/6 days. I know that some days I was so invigorated by the idea of cleaning things out that I’d rather spend my time working on those tasks than exercising. So that is partially to blame. But I think this also goes back to being tired. When I’m tired I don’t want to exercise. I need to ask myself if I am really tired, or if I don’t want to do something. 3/6 days isn’t bad- but it could be better. I hope to see improvement in this as the month goes on.

“Act Energetic” is the worst resolution I could ever have made. In Gretchen Rubin’s “The Happiness Project” I know for a fact that this was one of her goals. But it’s too abstract for me. I’ve given myself check marks on it most days but I feel like it’s hard to judge. I have tried to remind myself at work that if there was a task I didn’t want to do because it was too tedious or tiring, that I was really tired, that I was mostly feeling dread and honestly I felt much more able to conquer the task once I told myself that.

“Use to do lists” was the last item on my list. And MAN has this one been helpful. Every day when I get to work I make a to do list of the things I need to do that day, and I’m able to add to it as the day goes on and people randomly ask me to do a short task. It makes me feel much more organized about my day at work, and I actually feel like I am accomplishing things when the day is said and done.

Time Blocking

I mentioned this in one of my posts last week, and I actually only did it for two days. I find that where I have an office job each day, the idea of time blocking doesn’t really work. I think it’s important to write down a list of things I want to accomplish in the day and then just decide when I will do them. For example; I know that each day I want to read 20 minutes. And I have started to map out monthly what hours I will work at my job- to meet my goal hours. Based on that I know where a huge chunk of that day is. I make a list two weeks out of what we’re having for dinner so I know what I need to do when I get home from work. And from there I think it is just important for me to decide when I want to allocate the time to accomplish the other things in my life.

Going back to the “reading 20 minutes” each day item. On Friday I knew I would be working from 7:30-4:45pm. I knew that I’d leave home about 7:15 and return home around 5. Dinner was simple, an oven pizza (our Friday tradition). So, the question was to ask myself when I’d want to make the time for reading. I was realistic and said in the morning. So I allocated the 20 minutes in the morning. I found the time to do it.

Overall

In general I feel like I am definitely working towards my goal of getting organized this month. I am going to do a few more posts about how I’ve organized different areas of my life in the next week or so. I definitely feel like I am getting ready to have a fresh slate and a nice clean start. I am still trying to figure out who I am and what my goals in life are. I know it’s silly but I have spent most of my life being such a chameleon that I feel like I hardly know myself at all. Please leave any advice you might have in the comments, and as always definitely let me know if you or someone else you know has a happiness project I can follow along with.

My Happiness Project

For months I have been meaning to read “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin. I’ve thought for the longest time that it would benefit me so much. I am the type of person who strives to constantly improve, and happiness has always been something that I have been neglectful of. This past Tuesday as Nw Years Eve settled in in full force I finally had an opportunity to reflect on the past year and contemplate how I wanted to make changes in the coming one. I decided on New Years Day (albeit a bit late) that I wanted to read The Happiness Project to start my year off right, and undertake my own happiness project.

The next day at lunch time I ran to Barnes and Noble with a friend and picked up both the Happiness Project (book) and the 5 year journal. Every spare moment I’ve had since then has been consumed with reading this book. I am only about half way through, but in some ways, I am trying to savor it and process everything I am reading. I am determined to make changes this year.

Since I started the book after the new year, I felt a bit behind her on starting my own project. I wanted to start right away, but already four days of the month have passed by. So what I decided was this, January’s focus would be on Organization. January would be spent organizing my project, organizing my home, organizing my work, and organizing my life. From there I’ll move on to the next 11 months to work on different areas of my life in each of those.

I am beyond excited for this project. I feel so incredibly energized by the prospect. I can tell already that it would be anything that is going to change who I am, but it will be a great exercise in self improvement and self reflection, and hopefully out of it, I will find greater happiness.

Look forward to more posts on this subject, and more posts about the mini-projects I’ll be attempting as part of it. Anyone who has any advice or has done their own project please feel free to share your insights! Blessings for a very wonderful new year to all!